http://www.loveisfan.com/
"But it’s true. Love isn’t enough. Relationships are challenging commitments. They need effort and care and maintenance just like a garden. You can’t just be together and expect everything to work out fine without communicating and evolving; just like you can’t plant a garden and leave it alone and expect it to give you a wonderful bounty at the end of the season. you have to prune it and weed it and tend it.
Love is the seed for a relationship. Commitment, communication, and collaboration are the soil and water that help the seed to grow. Deprive the relationship of one of these and you will start to see it change and wilt. Replenish it and give it high quality dedication and it will thrive."
maybe the dense me will know wad is needed to keep it going...